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By Jeremy Eugene Reed in General Published: Sunday, 09 December 07 - 11:21 AM (GMT) Last Updated: Sunday, 09 December 07 - 11:22 AM (GMT) |
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Ok, so first, read this- http://msbreadwinner.com/ .
So, lets think this through. Ms. Breadwinner worked hard, and her husband supposedly did nothing, so she should not have to pay support. Ms. Breadwinner thinks that this is a unique position to be in-although, by her quote “That’s equality for you”, we know that she recognizes that this really isn’t a unique position, it is only unique if you are a woman who is ordered to pay support. Men have been forced to pay spousal support for years, and frankly, in many cases, it is the right decision. If a woman has been a homemaker (or not), and is suddenly without her primary source of support, then it would be unfair, unsafe, and unethical to leave her with no recourse to provide for herself. Support is supposed to allow the spouse to get in a position to take care of themselves. In many cases, the support has a defined beginning and ending point, and in virtually all cases, the support would end if the spouse remarried, etc… So why is Ms. Breadwinner so upset that she might be forced to pay support? Because she does not feel that her husband did enough to contribute to her income? Let’s look at a few cases that Ms. Breadwinner did not discuss.
Paul McCartney (Of Beetles fame) married Heather Mills in 2002. At this point, McCartney was already VERY rich, and Ms. Mills has done nothing to add to this vast fortune (at least nothing of consequence-all of the money making work was done 3 or 4 decades ago). Yet she reportedly asked for $20,000 A DAY!!! So, times 365 days in a year-that is $7,300,000 yearly. In support. The divorce finally settled for over 60 million dollars. See http://www.thehollywoodgossip.com/2007/01/heather-mills-paul-mccartney-divorce-settled-gold-dug/ . That is a tremendous settlement for a short term marriage. Any claims that Heather Mills had anything to do with the amassing of this fortune are laughable (I choose not to comment on any claims of abuse, as those claims are not relevant to this conversation.) So there is one case of a woman seeking support where she did nothing to “deserve” it.
Jeff Gordon, a famous NASCAR driver, was divorced from his wife Brooke in 2003.
“Brooke Gordon filed for divorce in March, citing "marital misconduct." The racer has countersued, saying he should not have to equally split the couple's estate because he risked his life to collect it.
Jeff Gordon had to reveal his worth in an affidavit filed to comply with a
Brooke Gordon has asked for exclusive use of their Highland Beach, Fla., mansion, valued at $10.2 million, as well as alimony, two cars and periodic use of their boats and an airplane. She also wants her husband to continue to pay the salaries of their housekeepers, maintenance workers and chef.” See http://media.www.dailylobo.com/media/storage/paper344/news/2003/01/24/Sports/Gordon.Divorce.Sells.Out-351140.shtml .
The Gordon case is especially instructive, as not only did Brooke not have to do much to help him amass his fortune (Brooke was Miss Winston when Gordon met her, in Victory lane, so she apparently did not teach him to drive the car!!!) When she asks him to continue paying housekeepers, chef, maintenance workers, etc…one must wonder, what did she contribute to the marriage (That is worth millions in homes, airplanes, etc…) But Ms. Breadwinner does not want to discuss these cases, because she thinks that men having to PAY support is ok, but no men should RECEIVE support.
I bring these cases up not as a shining example of men being abused, because neither man will suffer anything approaching financial ruin even with these exorbitant monetary requests. I bring them up to illustrate the hypocrisy of Ms. Breadwinners assertion that real men would not ask for support.
In this day and age, many men have taken the role of primary caregiver for the children of the family. These men give up employment opportunities, educational opportunities, essentially all of the opportunities that women cite giving up when asking for spousal support. Why shouldn’t these men receive the help that the law provides for? So men, don’t listen to the likes of Ms. Breadwinner. Whether her husband deserved support or not is not the issue, the issue is the broad claim that real men don’t ask for support. Let’s put that to rest, and determine what real men do.
1. Real men take care of their family. Period.
2. Real men ask for help when they need it. (Note that even John Elway had to throw the ball to someone.)
3. Real men read this blog. (Ok, so this is shameless plugging on my part, but so what?)
4. Real men protect themselves and those they care about. If that means receiving spousal support while re-establishing oneself after divorce, then so be it.
5. Most important, real men don’t define themselves by what Ms. Breadwinner, or Mr. Men’s Rights, or by what anyone else says. Real men know that they are who they are, and can only work to improve themselves, but can never be what someone else wishes they were.
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| what about this scenario? | vinny's mama | 01/31/08 |
| what about this scenario? | Reggie | 01/31/08 |
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Top | Reply to this Title: what about this scenario? Author: vinny's mama Date Posted: 31 Jan 2008 02:39 PM (GMT) What about a man who's wife of 30+ years has kept herself in great shape physically, raised two children, one of whose was HIS child from a previous marriage and one who has ADHD and was extremely difficult without ANY help or emotional support from the husband? Wife worked parttime throughout the children's growing up years in addition to taking care of everything on the home front (all husband had to do was get up and go to work), she obtained a college degree and has been working full time + for the last ten years and has a decent career now making approx $60,000 a year (working TWO jobs). Said husband was a successful businessman who owned his own business but always reported the 'bare minimum' taxes and for the last 7 years has claimed no income at all, but runs various 'businesses' from our home but is paid in cash only and doesn't report ANY of the income. Now in the process of a divorce, he is suing ME for alimony claiming that his lifestyle will change when we divorce. Our home, which is worth over one million dollars, is mortgage free, we have no debt and he owns a huge collection of antique cars that are worth hundreds of thousands of dollars. What do you think of a guy that could do this to a wife who did everything right during the marriage, never cheated, raised and cared for his kids, and then educated herself so that he wouldn't have to bear the financial burden of maintaining a marriage himself? Is this even legally possible? And what kind of a low life would do this? Opinions please....... |
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Top | Reply to this Title: what about this scenario? Author: Reggie Date Posted: 31 Jan 2008 02:41 PM (GMT) all I can say, speaking from a man's point of view, you will be well rid of that pond-scum. A 'real man' wouldn't stoop so low. |
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